“Yes! Yes! Mentality” threatening End FGM work

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Yes! Yes! phenomenon I call it, this has been slowly creeping into the communities. They have perfected the act of telling the donors what they want to hear. Go to any community for monitoring and evaluation and you will think FGM ended yesterday. Community members will tell you all the nice theories of change that you can ever imagine but sadly the moment you turn around the same community members turn against their daughters.

But why? In my view the biggest contributor of this mentality is;

  • The communities don’t really own the idea/project
  • They assume it’s goodies time and they fear these goodies may disappear
  • Have no clear indication of what the intervention is meant for
  • The perceived or intended outcome is not clear

In most cases the interventions are pre-determined by donor agencies and they have their standards and ways of doing things imposed on the communities. This leads to rigidity in interventions. Sometimes there is minimal or no community consultations in coming up with the projects. This makes the beneficiaries to feel obliged to please the conveners of these projects by any means possible, after all to them these are goodies and they should be enjoyed.

To curb this, all we need is to have adequate community involvement and ensure every beneficiary understands the interventions and desired outcomes thereto. The community members should know the interventions are meant to benefit them and not the donors. This will ensure ownership and vigilant by all interested parties in ensuring desired outcomes. Using of grassroots’ community led organizations in implementation of the projects/interventions has also proven to be an effective way of avoiding the above mentioned challenges and fostering ownership by communities………..

“Inspired by a speaker at the filming the bridge Training” 



Tony Mwebia

Tony Mwebia

Gender Equality Advocate, Writer, Activist & Consultant

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    Robert Munyui Kamunyu |

    THE BUTCHERS OF WOMANHOOD. FGM ( THE COVENANT OF THE FLESH). When God told Abraham to sign the covenant of the flesh, he circumcised all the men, male children up of eight days old and he was circumcised. The message was direct and in a plain language. GENESIS 17: 1-27. The agreement was strategically initiated and the male child grew beholding daily his agreement with God at every call of nature throughout his married life. Genesis17 :9-14, 9 And God said to Abraham: “As for you, you shall keep My covenant, you and your descendants after you throughout their generations. 10 This is My covenant which you shall keep, between Me and you and your descendants after you: Every male child among you shall be circumcised; 11 and you shall be circumcised in the flesh of your foreskins, and it shall be a sign of the covenant between Me and you. 12 He who is eight days old among you shall be circumcised, every male child in your generations, he who is born in your house or bought with money from any foreigner who is not your descendant. 13 He who is born in your house and he who is bought with your money must be circumcised, and My covenant shall be in your flesh for an everlasting covenant. 14 And the uncircumcised male child, who is not circumcised in the flesh of his foreskin, that person shall be cut off from his people; he has broken My covenant.
    The way and style of circumcising a man child at Gibeath-haaraloth was given by God as a must for a man child in Israel. Joshua 5:2. 2 At that time the LORD said to Joshua, “Make flint knives for yourself, and circumcise the sons of Israel again the second time.” 3 So Joshua made flint knives for himself, and circumcised the sons of Israel at the hill of the foreskins. Any man child that was not circumcised was to be cut off from his people. The covenant of the flesh for a man is with ease to behold with no ill feelings or regrets without medication required afterwards in life. When God warned in a spiritual language and told Moses that the Children of Israel shall not mutilate girls in honour of the dead ( satanic sacrifice since there is no circumcision of girls in God), the message was well understood and was given in a spiritual language which bears two warnings.
    Israelis parents are not to sexually mutilate daughters and fathers are commanded not have carnal knowledge (incest) of daughters making them prostitutes. Leviticus19:28-29, 28You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you: I am the LORD. 29 Do not prostitute your daughter, to cause her to be a harlot, lest the land fall into harlotry, and the land become full of wickedness. Fgm honoured prostitution castration defilement by parents is a satanic sacrifice culturally endorsed for man. The flesh is cut in honor of the dead as a satanic sacrifice for man in womanhood , of secrecy with miseries and constraints of disgrace to behold accompanied by many cases of traumatic child delivery requiring medication. It is the time satan camps in the garden of love and wreaks havoc to the fountain of love defense fences. Where is the wise man of God in Divine wisdom who would ever raise an altar of satan in fgm and tear down the helms of womanhood frm the apex with mutilating blades defiling daughters to sexual cripples to be clean? The sanctuary and the offering on the altar are all spiritually sanctioned sanctified unto God The garden of love is excavated and made rocky. For girls to free and safe from fgm , parents and men in satanic slavery require redemption of soul and spirit unto sanctification to God. Proverbs 4 :18-19; proverbs 14 :1-2; Song Of Solomon 4:12; Song Of Solomon :7-1; Corinthians 7 :8. The fleshy coals ( the seals, boughs or the petals of love which are the fleshy pillows being the branches beside and the fleshy alert notification aerial being the stay of love or the palm t ree) are excavated making the king of marriage an intruder and a rod of torture. The fleshy coals helps a woman to lock par with a husband in love. The garden of love vitality is permanently disabled, rigidly chilled, muted and the fountain defiled. 1 Peter2: 15, Isaiah 5:20-23. The defense and the fences of the marriage court are dismantled and destroyed at the altar of satan.


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